World Suicide Prevention Day: Don’t lock your children in your expectations of career for them!
AIM: To be frank – want to be a millionaire. Either by getting salary or giving salary.
I am in class 9th. I don’t know what I like. My parents keep asking me what you want to become. Please help.
I’m tired of giving exams..And my parents have also told me to leave engineering. I’m 23 almost with no degree! All my friends are changing jobs or getting promoted and all that..but I am NOTHING!! I’m lost!i feel ashamed of myself!no one helps me..my so called friends make me feel worse.while browsing I came across ur site and thought you might help..
Hi, kindly contact me via phone directly my number is 73****** I’m in trouble due to career dilemma.
And the list of these queries are endless.
As I run a career guidance website for 10-12th students, these are the set of troubled minds that I come across almost every day. These queries make me retrospect what’s going around?
Why is youth so lost? Why things are getting so materialistic?
Why only million bucks can solve all problems?
Why a tag of good institute only can earn you respect?
Perhaps these questions pop up every now and then and it’s almost cliched to raise them.
But we are either loosing precious lives or their peace of mind. So I guess it’s not bad to be vocal about them again and again.
Being a mother of two small kids, my heart aches whenever I hear stories of children dying anywhere due to any reason. I can’t even eat my meal properly that day and these FB shares of such stories keep lurching in my brain whenever I close my eyes to sleep. And this pain gets manifolds when I get to know that about suicide by young lads.. I just can’t imagine how these beautiful creatures with so much of spark in their eyes one day decide to end their life. Its not an exaggeration but my finger trembles to write on this subject (World Suicide Prevention Day) as I see my two lively kids playing whilst I am scribbling here.
Why this chaos?
-Everyone is so Successful. Trust me they are not.
During a discussion with my mentor on a very famous book by Thomas Anthony Harris- l’m OK – You’re OK, he came up with a very practical version on people’s well being. He said when two people meet and greet, state is something like-
“I am fine (though i know the truth) and you are fine ( I am assuming so that you don’t trouble me more)”
Another reason which I believe is social media. Though I am a digital media person and know the truth. Yet sometimes even I fell into the vicious circle of virtual world. Seeing organised families, beautiful homes, happy infants, and on top perfect dinner pics on social media makes me believe …Am I a failure? What’s it I am lacking? How can people do so good in their lives and I can’t . Fault lies within me only.
But I come out of this shocker in a jiffy …hence I guess I haven’t gone to that depressive stage yet 🙂
These repeated posts on our timelines leaves permanent imprints in our minds subconsciously making us believe there’s nothing beyond that and only that world is- Truth.
Give yourself a REALITY check!
When you post your pics…aren’t you at your best version. If by any chance photo has any flaw..you simply have magic of photoshop. Same applies to all out there.
I guess, it all stems out of pre-formed notions about life and the way people around us are conducting their’s with so much perfection…believe me, its all the same for everyone, (though philosophical but..), everyone out there is fighting a tougher battle.
You are NOT alone!
Dear parents save your kids. They are precious. Don’t let them succumb to the societal/peer pressure. Reports says kids from happy and stable families are less likely to become prey to this suicidal tendency.
Give your children a Happy you .
On this world suicide prevention day, theme is ‘Take a minute, change a life’ . I would suggest take out time for your kids, give them a feeling of trust, practical hopes and fulfilling life come what may. Teach them to deal with all kind of predicament.
IITs/IIMs, good grades or TOP degrees are not TICKET to HAPPINESS and SUCCESS
Some facts about Suicide by Students in India.
* Every hour, one student commits suicide in India, according to 2015 data (the latest available) from the National Crime Records Bureau (NCRB).
*Close to 40,000 students in India committed suicide from 2011to 2015, with 8,934 cases in 2015 alone. The number of attempted suicides, many unreported, is likely to be much higher.
*India has one of the world’s highest suicide rates for youth aged 15 to 29, according to a 2012 Lancet report, which illustrated the need for urgent interventions for this demographic.
* In the past six years, Kota which is major coaching hub has seen over 60 student suicides, with a majority of them attributed to exam failures.